Sunday, July 15, 2012

What the ... assumption?!?!?!?

It doesn't always pay to be nice.

I was at Road King one night enjoying an R&J (Romeo and Juliet) Churchill and some rum with friends. A waitress, also a friend, came up to me and started talking about a foreigner she had just served at the bar. He is so nice and so good and so pure. I quickly deduced he was pretty typical of Western men.

Why would I think that? She told me how she served him with a smile. After talking with him for a few minutes she had asked him if he would like to meet for coffee the next day. He was very enthusiastic about it.

Why would that make me think anything but positive thoughts? She smiled at him and treated him like a person. Ergo, in his mind, she must want him. Why else would she have been nice to him? Why else would she have asked him out for a coffee? When I told her this she didn't want to believe it. So she went back to the bar and talked to him again.

When she came back to my table she was pouting. I was right. He took her kindness for interest in him. When she asked about coffee that confirmed it for him. She must want him.

I don't know what it is about a lot of guys in the west, or at least Canada and the U.S., most are just that full of themselves. If a woman smiles at them and makes eye contact they take it to mean she wants him.

I haven't been able to find a link to the story but I remember a news story about a year before the above happened. It was probably around 2006 or 7. A chain of stores in the U.S. was forcing it's cashiers to make eye contact and smile at all customers. The cashiers were PISSED. 

Why? Because most guys would assume the cashier was interested in them. The company ended up backing off from the policy after the shit storm of complaints that it caused.

Sometimes, with some people, it just doesn't pay to be overly nice.


  1. Yes, it's pretty sad when guys automatically assume that.
    Women are not interested in ordinary schlubs, but are always attracted to men like me and Flint!

  2. Heh :)

    I can think of a more than a few Western guys I knew in Korea, let alone at home, who fit that attitude.